How to make the relationship work if he has kids


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You have to be ready

A man who loves his kids will always put them first, before you even. Single fathers are often seeking stability in a relationship, hence you should stay away from this if you’re still in the ‘party every weekend’ stage.

Don’t try to replace their mother

Life coach Amy Minicoff says approach this very carefully as the kids might think you’re an intruder in the family. There’s a possibility that they won’t like you at a go, and that’s okay. The more they see how happy their dad is when around you then they’ll start warming up to you.

The children will ALWAYS come first

If you’re the jealous and clingy type, rather avoid such relationships. Understand that this doesn’t mean he loves you any less. Sometimes he will cancel your plans due to an emergency for his kids.

The ex will be a part of your lives

There are parents who excel at co-parenting, so don’t let thoughts of them together get the better of you. Accept as soon as possible that he will always see and even call his ex, for the kids and nothing more.

You won’t be sharing firsts

If experiencing firsts together is important to you then this isn’t for you. His firsts were with with someone else, so there’s a chance that he won’t be as excited as you are.

Be patient

Take this one step at a time and communicate with your partner. throughout all this life changes, don’t forget to make time for yourself.

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