How to not lose yourself in a relationship


Being in a relationship doesn’t mean you should stop hanging out with friends and family.

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Don’t be pressurised

If your plan was to have your first child in your 30s when your career has taken off then do that. If marriage isn’t what you believe in then don’t compromise on that – you don’t want to be stuck unhappiness and being miserable, wondering what happened to you.

Get a life

… And allow him to have one as well. That means doing things that are outside your relationship. This won’t mean you love each other any less. Support each other but don’t forget about the most important person while doing it, you.

Compromise some things but not you

A man that loves you will not make you choose between him and your standards. Don’t settle for what you don’t believe in just to please him.

Be a woman a man needs not the opposite

Gone are the days when women had to be needy.That means handling your own business and not being dependant on him for things that you can provide for yourself. First, love yourself, only you can give yourself that.

Prioritise ‘me time’

Sometimes saying no to other people is saying yes to yourself. Choose what events you go to together or what you get up to during your weekends. Everything can’t be about him, chiling with his friends, visiting his family. Take some time for yourself even if it means going on a coffee date by yourself.

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