Change in a relationship can be difficult to deal with, and it can send some couples straight to separation. We look at some common snags that you may encounter and show you how to survive them WHEN THE HONEYMOON IS OVER Yes, all good things come to an end… and it includes your honeymoon period. When you fall in love with your partner, it’s the most beautiful thing. You feel like you’re floating in the clouds while staring at each other’s eyes and spend every waking moment with each other. So to be yanked out of that zone, can be depressing and unnerving. It’s like ‘What now?’ When the excitement dies down, it may feel like it’s over. But, don’t worry because this actually the beginning of your relationship. So, put aside your fears and any insecurity and get down to work. This is when you learn more about each other, and how you’re meeting each other’s needs. Now you’re more level headed, which is the perfect time to learn about each other’s goals and expectations. WHEN KIDS ARRIVE A baby comes with lots of change. And for the first time you’re going to see each other as parents. If you both have different ideals about to raise a child it can the dynamics of your relationship. Was the baby planned or not, who’s responsible for what, and how you’re going to help each other? These are some of the issues that will come up. You need to have a long conversation about this – preferably before baby arrives. Talk about your expectations, finances, goals and support structure. It’s okay to accept help from your loved ones, and get a nanny so that you can have some quiet to yourselves as a couple. IN CASE OF A TRAUMATIC EVENT A miscarriage, illness or loss of a family member or child can and has ripped couples apart. Grieving is a hard thing to go through, and some of don’t know how to deal with it together as a couple. There are different ways we deal with grief or trauma, but don’t let it pull you apart. Allow each other time to heal, and agree to seek counseling should you struggle. THE SEVEN-YEAR ITCH Have you ever thought about how you’d feel, when you’ve done it all in a marriage? You know each other so well, you’ve had children and achieved your goals. Yes life can be very mundane and being stuck in a rut can drive you mad Stop focusing on how boring things are. This is the perfect time to start looking at the things you used to enjoy - things that make you an individual and fulfill your soul. Dedicate sometime to spend with your man, and bring back the spark to your sex life. Be adventurous and try different thing in the bedroom.
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