How to resist the urge to cheat


Everyone knows that adultery is wrong, but still do it anyway. It’s normal to find another person attractive even though you’re committed to your partner but you still have a choice whether to allow the temptation to take over or not. So, if you feel temptation calling; here’s how to resist it.

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Think about the consequences

If you feel tempted to cheat and want to avoid doing it, keep in mind the consequences of cheating, including the harm it will do to your partner and your relationship and as well as to your image of yourself. You also need to keep in mind that; there’s always a reaction to every action either bad or good.

Call a friend

According to Psychology Today, social support and pressure, whether from friends or strangers, can be enormously helpful in fighting temptation. Phone someone who can be open with and understand what you going through. Phone a friend who will give you advice, not the one who is judgmental.

Put yourself in your partners shoes

Try to switch roles, if you were the one who found out that your partner has cheated, how would you feel?  Putting yourself in your partner’s shoes is the best way to remove yourself from the situation and save you a lot of heartache.

Be open with your partner

This is the hardest thing to do, but it may just benefit your relationship. Be open with the person you want to share your life with. Start by exploring the reasons why you may be tempted to cheat. What does the other person have that is lacking in your relationship? And approaching the issue from that point will cushion the blow. Discuss with your partner how to put the spark back into your relationship.


There are times when you have to remove yourself from a situation in order to prevent cheating. Do the best you can to avoid the person you’re attracted to, don't fool yourself into thinking that you can be alone with this person if you know in your heart that you can't.

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