You can achieve the balance…you superwoman you! Here’s some expert advice: MAKE YOUR RELATIONSHIP WORK Re-negotiate: “Relationships evolve. If you got married in your 20s, the landscape of the marriage will be different in your 30s. You have to be able to re-negotiate the terms of your relationship with your partner. Speak up about what you need and negotiate or change and compromise. You have to meet each other halfway,” says Johannesburg clinical psychologist Khosi Jiyane.? The right attitude: Clinical psychologist, couples therapist and author of Making it Work When You Work a Lot, Dr Joel Block Block believes that intimate relationships are not incompatible with dynamic careers. “Stress is inevitable, but struggling is optional,” he says. He believes the right attitude goes a long way and that couples should strive for basic politeness. When you come home fatigued and overwhelmed from work, and only have a few minutes together before you go to bed, Block suggests that you “say something that’ll nurture the relationship.” Aim for quality: Life coach and author of The Goddess Bootcamp, Kagiso Msimango, believes quality is better than quantity. “The quality of the time spent with a loved one is more important than the quantity. Being engaged and present with your partner is more valuable than just being there,” she says. Set boundaries: It’s important to put certain restrictions in place, says counselling psychologist and relationship specialist Nkateko Ndala-Magoro. “This means switching your phone on or off at particular times of the day; avoiding or limiting the times you take laptops or files home; diarising home time (so that the time is occupied) and setting boundaries with colleagues about when they can talk to you about work,” she says. Stay connected: Technology gets a bad rap when people are constantly plugged in. But when you’re a high-powered jet-setter in a committed relationship, there’s warmth to be found in a text or voice message, email or a telephone or facetime call to your significant other. Go on dates: Marisa Costa from Learnvest.com suggests lunch dates and date nights where you get to re-create your first date or have a fancy date at home. Save time: On domestic chores, Ndala-Magoro suggests bulk cooking. “This trick saves time while getting the benefit of home-cooked meals on busy work days,” she says.
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