How to survive being friend-zoned

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Ah… the Friend-zone can be such a b***. You like the guy, you get along very well, and you’re convinced that you are kindred spirits. But, as soon as you show interest in him, you are blindsided with a ‘quick current’ that sends you into the friend-zone. Oooouch… this hurts and can leave you wondering ‘what’s wrong with me that he wants to hang out, but has no romantic interest in me' – he even says you’re like his little sister or worse…his big sister. Here we help you cope with the situation.

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Be a friend

This is not easy to do; having to see someone you love with other people and dealing with that overwhelming feeling of being trapped. The fact is, you obviously care for this person and want to be around them, so the best thing to do is be his friend. Don’t start making things awkward by doing silly things that can break your friendship.

Find a distraction

Don’t be bitter, just find things to do that make you happy. Hang out as a group of friends instead of just the two of you. Try new activities that you can do together but separately, such wall climbing or bounce etc. That way you’re still hanging out, but are also concentrating on the activity.

Take some out

Without acting funny towards your friend, steal some time for yourself. To just reflect and figure out why you are falling for him, and if he will remain the same when you’re an item. Some people treat their girlfriends completely different from the way they treat friends. Think about whether you even want to take the chance and gamble with the friendship because if the romance ends, your friendship might end as well.

Remind yourself you’re amazing

Friend-zone may leave you with doubt about your looks and how amazing a person you are. He might not want you as more than a friend, but that doesn’t mean you are not enough as a person. So don’t forget how amazing you are; this will help you to keep you going and make you feel better about yourself.

Move on

This is the hardest one, but the most important one. Whatever is meant to be will be, so don’t let yourself live in the “what if” fantasy for too long. Feelings die slowly over a great length of time, but they do die down eventually and after a while you're going to get over him and move on with your life.

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