Would you marry someone who you’ll only meet for the first time at the alter on your wedding day? Lihle Buthelezi did. The 26-year-old tells us about her journey on Married At First Sight.
Please tell us a bit about your history with relationships.Where do I start? I always seemed to attract people that ultimately never had the same goals as I did. It’s hard to sustain relationships when you’re not on the same chapter or have to always try to be seen and heard. I can fortunately say that knowing my value led to the end of many of my past relationships.
What made you decide to apply for MAFSSA?After many failed relationships and heartbreak, it was clear to me that I was doing something wrong. I know I wanted lifelong companionship with someone compatible, so I had nothing to lose by trusting experts to find my match. Knowing that I’d d be matched with someone who had the same primary wants as I did made the decision that much easier to make. I'm a brave woman.
How did you feel when you got the call that you got through?
When I learnt that I’d made the shortlist, I was excited and nervous. I couldn't believe it. Then when I was told that they’d found me a match, you see my surprise and my tears of joy on camera. I experienced so many positive emotions that day.
How did your close family react to you applying on the show?My family never knew I had applied; I only told them after all was said and done.
When it comes to traditional rituals like ilobolo, membeso etc, how did you picture the process happening since you were only going to meet your husband on your wedding day?I come from a deep-rooted Zulu culture and I knew I’d honour my heritage. I figured that if I stay married after the six weeks, my husband and I would have to start discussing and arranging for the cultural ceremonies that usually happen. It would be unfair to require that before a decision has been made to stay together long term and make it work.
Please tell us more about your husband?Firstly my husband is a chatterbox and very sweet. He loves to train, enjoys cooking, spending time with his family and is so passionate about his work.
You've been married for a couple of weeks now. How has it been?It’s a little difficult to sum up how it has been. It takes some getting used to being "married," meaning living together has had its ups and downs. We are trying to get to know each other as best we can. So we’re taking it one day at a time.
What were your fears getting into a marriage with someone you don't know? Any regrets?My biggest fear was if I fell for him and the feeling was not reciprocated. Others fears became insignificant – for me happiness was everything.
Where you not worried about the chemistry between you and your husband?It was definitely the top of the "Worries List" going into the experience.
What advice would you give to someone who’d like to do what you did?My advice is that if you’re willing to take the risk then never worry about what people will say. If you’re going into this process with virtuous intentions no matter the outcome you are braver than most people. Always keep an open mind and open heart, who know this may be your chance at happiness.