Holding on to something you cannot change doesn’t really help. Here’s what you can do to let go and move on with your life. Forgive yourself When something has happened, why dwell on it? Holding on to grief and shame can be like holding a grudge that can fester for years. It’s okay to forgive yourself. Deal with the emotions that consume you The emotion that consumes you the most will destroy you if you don’t deal with it. Breathe, calm your nerves and hang out with people that build and support you. Seek help from a therapist; they’ll be able to give you practical ways to deal with your emotions. Let go of hate There’s a thin line between love and hate. Hating is still a very strong emotion towards someone. The day you feel indifferent you’ll know that you’ve let go, so strive for that instead of hate. Put a positive spin on it It’s hard to see any positive when you’re in a bad situation, but think about the worst that could have happened and be grateful that it didn’t happen to you. For example, after an argument with your sister you both left the scene angry, but didn’t disown each other, and this leaves a window for the both of you to make up at a later stage. Don’t dwell on ‘what if’ You can’t go back and do things differently, so don’t get stuck thinking about what you could have done differently. Learn from your mistakes, grow and move on.
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