Oh no you didn’t! What to avoid saying on a first date


How many first dates have you had without scoring that all-important second one? It’s probably because you’re saying all the wrong things.

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Family drama

The purpose of first dates is to know the guy, so bombarding him with your family drama might scare him away. Avoid telling him about how your sibling wants to drop out school or your parents’ fights – it’s too soon.

Bragging about finances

Telling the guy about how much you’re coining isn’t such a good idea. Firstly if he initiated the date he could feel as though he can’t ‘afford’ to be with you, and secondly because bragging is just plain annoying.

Discussing marriage

You just met the guy, how about you give yourselves some time to know him before asking him what colour scheme he thinks would suit your wedding. Also, some men are afraid of commitment, you want to gently introduce him to the idea of commitment as time goes by without him even realising it.

‘Are you renting or do you own property’

This might say to him you’re ready to move in and that’s just overstepping the mark. He might not even believe in cohabiting.

Promise you wont hurt me’

That’s a big promise to make to anyone, regardless whether you’re dating or not. People react differently to situations, what you consider as acceptable the other person might be hurt by it. Nobody wants to start a relationship with so much pressure to not ‘hurt’ you or make up for your ex’s mistakes.

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