Oral sex, debunked


[caution, explicit content]  Screen Shot 2016-06-20 at 2.45.18 PM My man wants to go down on me first thing in the morning. I think it’s gross. This is actually a loud cry from him for you to return the favour, but it seems you’re insecure about whether you smell fresh down there. Remember that you’re not meant to smell like Chanel No. 5, as it’s your natural scent that turns him on. My boyfriend wants to kiss me after he goes down on me. How do I deal with that? It’s not only women who feel this way; men can also find kissing after you’ve gone down on them either a turn-off or turn on. Try to tell him tactfully. Remember you can’t press the pause button during the act to freshen up, so it’s best to be honest. Do I spit or swallow? There is no proper spit or swallow etiquette. Connecting with your partner and being fully liberated to do what you’re comfortable with must take precedent over any tricks or techniques. My man isn’t circumcised. How do I go down on him? A man’s foreskin naturally retracts when he’s hard. If he happens to have an unusually long foreskin, use your hands to gently push it back and enjoy. How do I make my vagina taste or smell better? It really boils down to the kind of foods you consume. A diet consisting of pineapples, cranberries, watermelons, apples and celery is great. Wearing natural fibres such as cotton will also help to keep your vagina fresh. Indulging heavily in cigarettes, beer, onions and dairy products can result in a sour odour. Can I get STIs from having oral sex? Yes. However, oral sex is viewed as lower risk, compared to penetration, where sexually transmitted infections and diseases such as herpes, gonorrhoea and syphilis can be transmitted. Use a dental dam, which is a latex rectangular sheet that still retains sensitivity, to be absolutely safe. I’ve never given my man oral sex; where do I start? Going down on him is all about mimicking the sexual act of thrusting and penetration, using your mouth. The secret is in the variety ?of strokes and the intensity of your licking and sucking. Don’t concentrate only on his penis; also reward him with a sensual massage or caress his balls. Guys also love it when you graze your fingers on his perineum (between his scrotum and the anus). Pay particular attention to the tip of his shaft where he’s most sensitive. The only rule of oral sex is to avoid biting him during the throes of passion. My man needs help in the oral sex department. How do I guide him without embarrassing him? Set aside time for oral sex lessons and prepare to entice him. Collect video clips from free porn sites to guide him on how you’d like him to go down on you. To disguise your true intentions, collect clippings teaching you how to give him a lingam massage (penis massage) and start the night with his treat and ease him into it. He refuses to go down on me without me trimming my nether regions. How much is too much? If your man really wants you completely bald, suggest a shave-off where you agree to go clean down there on condition he also gets a trim and cut. Turning his request into a naughty bedroom activity should leave him salivating for action, and you’ll both be gasping with pleasure as you enjoy the perks of the job. I have oral sex with a few men does this make me promiscuous or not? Young women preserving their modesty have used oral sex to ward off peer pressure by being sexually active without really doing it. Sex, whether penetrative or not, attracts moral judgments and dilemmas. If you’re asking this question, it may be your conscience pricking you and only you can decide if this is wrong or not.

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