Pillow Talk Deciphered


What men say during sex and they really mean

Ever feel you need a peak inside your man’s brain to understand him? You’re not the only one. Studies have shown that women’s brains are primed for language, and that men generally have weaker impulse control. What this adds up to between the sheets could lead to a communication breakdown – a sure passion killer. Keep things hot and heavy with our guide to understanding your man’s whispered wants.


I’m about to come!”

From here on out you can do pretty much whatever you want, because he’s not going to be able to last any longer. Sometimes it the way of asking you if you’re okay with the session ending, and if you’re not he will try to calm down so that you reach yours too. Yes, even men know ejaculation doesn’t revolve around men alone. Your pleasure is just as important as much as his, and at the end of the day you need to be satisfied too.

“You know what would be great…”

He wants to try something new, be it an untested position or some play with a sex toy. Keep your mind open to his suggestions; you could turn out to like it. This is his way of keeping things interesting and introducing new things into the bedroom without having to address it in a serious conversation.

 “How do you want it?”

He’s actually asking you to tell him your favourite sex position. It can be difficult for a guy you’ve only just started sleeping with to know what really works. He can’t read your mind, so tell him what turns you on. He knows his turn-ons and he’ll get it, so he wants to make sure that he’s giving you pleasure too.

 “Do you feel that?”

He wants to make sure that you actually enjoying yourself as much as he is. He doesn’t want to look like he doesn’t know what he’s doing, so a little validation from you tells him he’s doing a great job (and your response will turn him on even more).

“Talk dirty…”

That loud noise you’re making could be a bit of a turn off. Rather whisper something suggestive in his ears or do something that will turn him on even more as he’s not quite there yet. Sometimes it can mean he’s enjoying things so much that he wants to be turned on even more by the sound of your voice.

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