Getting to know your new man can be as intimidating as a job interview. Here are questions you should not blurt out at that first yet crucial date.
While you have your own list of things you like in a guy, you still worry about how you look, the conversation and what passes as good manners for him as well. To avoid an akward conversation, there are subjects that you shouldn’t raise on your first few dates. Kirsten Long, founder of Coach 4 Life in Johannesburg, advises that the following questions should not be asked, especially on your first date:
How many women have you slept with?
He’ll feel you’re attacking him and will immediately become defensive. That’s personal information that can only be divulged if you develop a relationship.
How much do you earn?This is a no-no. He’ll immediately think you’re after him for the money. This is likely to put him off and there won’t be a second date.
How do you feel about commitment?
You’ve just met the guy and you’re talking about marriage – you’ll scare him off for good. Give yourself (and him) the chance to get to know each other first.
When can I meet your family?
You’re way ahead of him here. He’ll introduce you to his folks when he’s decided that you’re the woman for him. Asking this now will make him feel unnecessary pressure and you’ll probably never see him again.
When can I see you again?Why the rush? This act of desperation will put your guy off. Wait until he calls you.