Reality check: the pressures of marriage

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Relationship expert Marie Dubuque says you might succeed at getting him to propose but will you stand being in a lonely and cold marriage? Probably not.

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The blame will be on you

Marriage can go both ways. He can either realise that he waited too late to make you his wife or he made the biggest mistake of his life. At this point you won’t be able to pin the blame of the failure in your marriage on him because he wasn’t ready.

You’ll be pretending

Pressuring him into marriage can come across as desperate. Two people can be the happiest whilst dating but the most mesirable in marriage this is because not everyone is meant to experience marriage and that’s okay.

You’ll be setting

Being in a long-term relationship with someone doesn’t automatically mean that’s the person you’re going to spend the rest of your life with. Pressuring him into marriage can damage the relationship as he would have done it just to settle.

Get rid of the timelines

Rushing to get married because of timeline you set for yourself is doomed to fail. So what if you’ve just turned thirty and are unmarried? That’s the beauty of life, to expect the unexpected.

Waiting is better

Think about it, wouldn’t it be nice to have your man propose when the both of you are ready? Not when you’ve nagged him for years to do it. Rather wait than have him do it as a favour.

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