However, there are things that we do sometimes that can make people hate us. Here we break it down for you.
You are always negative You think it’s realistic to think of the worst-case scenario, but others may see you as a dream crusher and the bearer of doom. So, let others be happy even if you see things differently. Make a mental note to congratulate friends, compliment and praise them when they’ve done something great even when you instinctively think of how it could turn out bad. And follow the age-old saying, ‘if you have nothing nice to say – don’t say anything at all.’ You act inappropriately If you flirt with your best friend’s boyfriend or use people as a ladder to get to the top, you’re being a vile human being. Some say ‘it’s lonely at the top,’ while others believe that you should not step on people on your way up, because they’ll be there to support if you happen to fall down. You’re inconsiderate A friend needs you to show up on time for an important event in their lives, but you show up late. You tend to ditch people at the eleventh hour with no explanation, or not care that they are going through a major crisis in their lives. Once in a while ask a friend how they are, and take genuine interest in their lives. Learn to listen, sometimes people don’t want your opinion, they just want your support. And think about how you’d feel if the tables were turned. You always take and never give back The saying, ‘when days are dark, friends are few,’ refers to you. You are never there for the people who are always there for you. You take and take, but never give back. If someone does something nice for you, you never reciprocate the act of kindness. A friend has car problem, but you refuse to give them a lift… the same friend who picked you up everyday when your old junk of a car stopped working. This can make people start pulling away from you, and you’ll wonder why they’ve distanced themselves. Stop being selfish and support your friends too. You’re controlling If you’re the mother hen who wants everything done her way, then you may have serious problems. You want to be the person that decides on everything on behalf of friends, family and colleagues. That’s not how life works, and people will resent you for trying to rule their lives. You must give everyone the respect that they deserve, allow them to make their own decisions and accept the fact that it may not be what you want for them.