Relationship goals: Scratching the 7-year itch


The happily ever after seems to not exist after being together for seven years. Author of Doing family therapy, Bob Taibbi says, “the challenge for any couple is being able to change the relationship to fit the ever-changing needs of each partner”. He suggests that you follow these tips.

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Back to communication

It’s easy to lose yourself in the mist of children, the household and your careers. Get back to the routine of checking in on each other by asking how your day went and planning date nights.

Listen to yourself

Chances are in the past 7 years your priorities and needs have changed. Take notice of them and discuss with your partner instead of assuming that he knows.

Do the little things

You might take it for granted by randomly buying tickets to go watch his favourite team play will mean more to him than buying him an expesive time piece. Showing random acts of love can do wonders for your relationship.

Experience life together

An effective way to get rid of boredom is by exploring and what better way than to do it with your loved one. Make it a habit to go on holidays together, do musical fests, camping, whatever it is that will excite the two of you.

Find the positive

What is going through your head during this time is mostly frastration over everything that’s seems to be going wrong. It helps to find the good things you love about your partner, it’s impractical for a person to be all bad.

Remember… you’re in the same team

Whatever arguments you may have, in the end, you’re in the same team and should work towards the same goal. Shift your focus from who’s right and who’s wrong to coming with practical solutions.

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