Women have been basing their decision to exchange fluids with a man based on the size of his pocket since time immemorial. There’s even a famous Zulu saying Ubuhle bendoda zinkomo zayo, loosely-translated it means a man’s beauty is the number of his cattle, and you know that back then cattle were a big currency. So why are we acting all surprised in 2016 when women list material requirements in their criteria of an ideal man? As a matter of fact, women before were non-negotiable on this as they were not employed and depended on men for financial support. They were not independent then. It wouldn’t make sense to leave your parents’ house, where you’re looked after, to go to a household where you’re going to suffer and then bring children to that miserable environment. We men (broke men) are the biggest critics of women who look at a man’s financial prospects before exchanging fluids with him. So you’re a father to a daughter – if your precious angel had to choose between a corporate executive and a cleaner, who would you hope she chooses? It’s worse these days because even men tend to look at what the woman can bring to the table financially. The Rand is depressing, the economy is fickle, food prices are ridiculously high – both males and females are increasingly looking to build households that will be financially sustained by two incomes. So why are we quick to label women ‘gold-diggers’ when they demand some financial security? I’m not saying being financially-dependent on men is okay, it’s not and it never ends well. Women are financially and in some instances single-handedly supporting households. They are able to do that and more because they have careers. They work hard. These ladies too, want a guy who’s bringing something to the table. That can never be equated to gold-digging. Gold-diggers are lazy and see men as their gateway to milk and honey. I think you should reach a certain age where when looking for a man, good looks are a bonus; not the main criteria. Often good-looking boys think they are a God’s gift to women and that every woman wants them. Do you know how painful it is to love someone who carries the ‘I-Can-Get-Whoever-I-Want’ aura? Look for someone with a good head on their shoulders, look for someone who has ambition beyond screwing every hot girl he meets, look for a man with a solid plan, look for love, look for a man who's real. And never ever be shy of not compromising on the financial prospects of your potential future husband.
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