Rev up the love in your relationship


Whether the honeymoon period is over, or you’re in that seven-year itch phase, you can still love each other like you did when you first met. Here are things you can do to bring back the passion and make your love last.

  Couples who have great relationships actually like each other so much that they care for their partners no matter what. It may feel like you’re in such a rut that you don’t want to waste your time on love. You have companionship you need and someone who pays half the bills, so why bother. If there was once love in your relationship, you can still revive it. Don’t lose yourself Do not lose the way you took care of yourself. Do the things you did before you when you were alone – your monthly visits to a nail bar, the salon and looking your best to doing things that fulfill you as an individual. These are important and can make you feel whole, which will always have a positive effect on your relationship.   Honour and celebrate special days Have you gotten to the part where, really, no one cares for birthdays and special occasion? And those important work events where everybody brings a partner, you’d rather swallow the dirty looks of showing up alone than with your partner? You don’t have to go all out to celebrate each other’s birthday. A sleep in and a cupcake with a single candle can be very romantic. Booking a weekend away to celebrate can sure make your partner feel special. If he is getting an award at work or is being honoured for something, you should be there cheering him on, it shows support and a good partner will reciprocate.   Always give a damn Most men find it difficult to express themselves or voice their feelings. Try to lisen to what he has to say, no matter how trivial it seems. Your partner needs to know that he can lean on you so take him seriously even if he is being ‘silly’. If you always call him out on how stupid his choices are, and go on to make what you think is a better choice for him – it’ll be like you don’t care about anything he has to contribute. Stand up for him when people insult him, his hobbies or the way he dresses. Notice the little things he does for you or the family, and express your gratitude.   Don’t stop dating We’ve all come to learn about how important date night is for couples in committed relationships. So, don’t be caught up in the rut of your daily routine – work, lunchboxes, and making your housekeeper is paid on time. Even if it’s just you and your partner, don’t fall into the pit of living together like companions and not lovers. Put it in your diary, and commit to having at least one date night a month. If you plan it, you will be able to find the time to just be you and your hubby. Go out and have fun, or stay it and make it special. Whatever you do, make sure the focus is connecting with your partner.
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