Sex questions you’re too embarrassed to ask


We’ve heard it before: knowledge is power, and that holds true for your sex life. Many people have questions about sex, relationships and love that they are too embarrassed to ask. We answer those questions for you.

How often can we have sex?

Some couples prefer three times per week; others derive pleasure from indulging once a week. It all depends on your individual needs, which vary in every couple. What is important is that both you and your partner feel satisfied by the amount of sex you have.

Is it normal for a woman to be aggressive during sex?

As long as both partners enjoy it, there is nothing wrong with the woman taking the lead or being aggressive.

How can I be better in bed?

It depends on what you enjoy doing in bed. Try out different positions and see which ones you and your partner enjoy. Both men and women need a certain amount of foreplay before they become aroused. Communicate with your partner to learn what he likes, and tell him what you want.

Does size count?

It does not! A man’s ability to satisfy a woman in bed has nothing with the size of his penis.

Are circumcised men better in bed?

Circumcision, or removal of the foreskin, is done for sanitary, cultural or religious reasons. Some men opt for it to prevent the spread of HIV. However, it does not affect sexual performance.

Why do men get turned on faster than women?

This happens because the male sex organs are external. The tip of the penis is very sensitive to touch and just five minutes of repeated friction can cause an ejaculation. A woman’s sex organs are internal and require more time and patience before she will orgasm.

What part of a woman's body is most sensitive to stimulation?

The clitoris is small, yet it is packed with sensitive nerve endings.

Does alcohol increase libido?

Alcohol is actually a depressant. It does lower inhibitions, which is why some people hook up while they are drunk. But the alcohol itself does not increase sexual desire.

How can I tell if he’s about to come?

Every person is different, but a man will probably start thrusting faster, his breathing will also speed up and his whole body will probably be hot and sweaty. Also, his penis will throb.

Does a man have only one climax during a sex session?

This depends on the man. Some men are able to have several climaxes during the course of a long sex session. The enjoyment of each person should be the focus, and not the number of climaxes.

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