FAMSA’s Lazarus Mashiloane explains the signs that should give you a red flag about your man’s loyalty. He has two phones, never sleeps over, and can’t be reached after a certain time? Wake up sister, he may not just be cheating on you, but he’s might be doing it with someone else. You can’t reach him This is shady. If you can never reach him at night, and he always spins off some story about his phone having problems, or that he switches it off because he gets up very early to get to work, something’s up. Chances are he doesn’t want his wife or steady girlfriend to catch him talking to another woman. He disappears You don’t see him or hear from him for weeks at a time, or he only shows up on weekends. His excuse is, ‘I had a family emergency’, or ‘I work in another province so I only come back on weekends’. It could be that his steady girlfriend or wife is starting to suspect something, so he has to lay low for a while; or there are other women involved in this situation, and 24 hours is simply not enough to see all of them. He always cancels You’ve been looking forward to your date all week, but as you’re putting the finishing touches to your make-up, he texts to say he can’t make it. This isn’t the first time and the excuses are mounting. Fact is, this man has to stay on call 24/7. No matter what plans he makes with you, his wife and family are more important, and he will cancel any plans to tend to their needs. You’ve never seen his place Whatever excuse he gives you, something’s up if you’ve been dating for months and have never seen where he lives. This is a tell-tale sign that he lives with another woman. He doesn’t sleep over Whenever you invite him for a home-cooked meal, he never shows up. This is because most men eat supper at home with their wives. If he doesn’t, she’ll suspect that another woman is cooking for him. Also, not coming home is an absolute no-no for any man in a committed relationship. You’ve never met his family Even though you’ve been dating for months, and you know his family lives close by, you’ve never met a single soul from the family – not even a cousin. This is because his family have already met the woman in his life, and it’s not you. He has two phones If he has two phones, and you only have the number for one of them, you should be suspicious. He says one phone is for personal use and the other is for work. Even if the other phone is for business, he should no problem giving you the number, unless he is hiding something.
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