Signs you love him too much

Psychologist Elizabeth Bates says yes. These are the signs to look out for.

Putting yourself last

Putting others’ needs before yours is a noble thing to do but it becomes a problem when you forget about yourself in the process. Loving someone doesn’t mean you must stop doing what makes you happy. Be it sports, music or reading – taking time to please yourself is very important in maintaining a healthy relationship.

Too much attention

Everybody likes a bit of attention from time to time but careful not to fall into obsession mode. Painting someone as “perfect” is annoying and quiet frankly nobody needs that kind of pressure. Just iike you he’s human and will make mistakes that will disapoint you.

Putting your goals on hold

If you’re working towards making his dreams and goals come true more than you are on yours then girl you’ve got a big problem. It’s good to support each other’s goals, however you need to work at it together. Your dreams are as valid as his.

You suffocate them

Okay – give the guy a break. If your relationship is strong enough then there is no need for insecurity. Calling him every 10 minutes to check where he is, or who he’s with is annoying and can suffocate him. He should be able to have a life of his own outside your relationship. It doesn’t mean he loves you any less.

Controlling everything

Women generally like taking control in relationships. Do it with caution you don’t want to make him feel sidelined. Remember you’re in a partnership so there needs to be a balance between giving, taking, sharing and decision making.

Over showering him with gifts

Suprises are great, but doing it every other day tends to make it lose sentimental value. Too much of anything isn’t good for anyone. This can scare them off, so tread carefully.