Signs you’re dating a con man


So you’ve just met this guy and think you might have find the one - how do you really know if he’s for real or not? Read on to find out.

These days there are many con men floating out on the internet and they know the only way to get their hands on your money is through your heart. Luckily there are signs to spot one to help avoid becoming a victim.

They ask for money

He will first create intimacy to show his best side as he is a good person and it easy to fall for him that way. Once he notices you’ve fallen for him he’ll eventually need money for something. He might tell you a story of her car breaking down, leaving you with no other way to get to work or his mother is sick need to pay hospital bills. He’ll keep asking for more and more, while you are getting nothing in return. Do not begin telling yourself lies that things will get better. They won’t. Get out before you are taken.

They want to move fast

He will likely want to move very fast into a relationship; the entire better to gain your trust and get what he needs out of you. He may pressure you to get married or move in together very quickly. This is because he wants a way to get closer to you.

Abuse your trust

Con men will quickly find their way to gaining your trust and obedience by pretending to hold a job that traditionally respectful and admirable, such as CEO of the company or someone high up in the secret levels of the government. In that way you’ll be fully convinced he’s a good guy with a good job there’s no way he’s after your money. You need to do your own investigation find out if he’s really what he says he is.

Disappear frequently

People who disappear for days or even weeks at a time are always up to no good. He is likely to disappear around holidays. This is usually because the con man is leaving a double life and needs to be elsewhere during this time. Don't buy any excuses.

Ask personal information

It one thing if your longest partner ask for your security number it another when you just met the person already ask about your social security number. He will start asking certain questions like “which bank do you use?” and “which assets do you own?”

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