The dos and don’ts of arguing


It’s inevitable that you’ll argue with your man. But, how you handle bickering can either improve or damage your relationship. Here are the dos and don’ts for arguing constructively. Screen Shot 2016-06-03 at 11.13.45 AM DO: Calm down Before you say hurtful words, cool off for a second. Do something that calms you. Words uttered in anger can never be taken back so be careful not to insult each other. Learn to compromise Playing the blame game gets you nowhere. Have suggestions on ways to address the issue instead of focusing on the problem. Meet your partner halfway by listening to how he wants to help resolve the issue. “It’s vital to respect what the other person is saying, and you need to ask how committed you are to keep your relationship healthy,” advises Julia Griss, a relationship coach. Apologise It’s hard admitting when you’re wrong but acknowledging it shows your man that you want to work things out. DON’T: Ignore him when he talks Show respect by giving him a chance to speak and he’ll give you the same respect. Don’t be quick to respond, otherwise you’ll be on your own in this argument. Slam doors Not only does this behaviour show lack of maturity but it leaves your relationship sour. Bring up past issues Focus on the problem at hand. Bringing up the past shows that his mistakes never go away. He’ll get into the habit of ignoring you and things will never get sorted out.

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