The ex that won’t go away


Here’s how to deal with them.

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The baby mama

If she’s not blowing your man’s phone at odd hours of the night, she’s just demanding too much. You need to accept that she will always be there in his life so the both of you need to find common ground.

Your man needs to make it clear that it’s over and she needs to respect you as his woman. Some basic rules should be put in place. No calls or texts in wee hours of the morning unless it’s an emergency.

The family’s favourite

At family celebrations she’s there, whenever you visit the family she’s still there. Usually the family see’s no wrong in this therefore you need to take it upon yourself to tell your man how you feel and find a way to adress this.

He can’t tell his family who and who not to bring to the house. However he can suggest that they don’t invite her when the both of you are around.

The one you almost dated

You didn’t really date but you had a ‘thing’ going on. It’s usually sexual, or the relationship ended before it started. These exes like claiming that they need closure and eventually begs you to take them back knowing that it will never happen.

Author of Understanding dating Mc Allister says in order to gain your ex’s respect you need you be firm when addressing him. Avoid beating around the bush as this can drag the break-up even longer.

The stalker

This one can’t seem to stop calling or rocking up at your door. Block any form of contact. Turn off your location settings on your phone if you don’t want him knowing where you are. Going the legal route might seem extreme but stalking can accelerate and that’s when it’s starts getting dangerous.

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