Radio producer and author Msizi E Nkosi schools us on why bad boys are just plain bad. Believe it or not, but not all guys are the same. A lot of guys cheat – rich guys, broke guys, hunks, guys with fat-bellies, rural guys, urban guys, married guys, pastors, politicians, sports stars. You also get guys who are fiercely loyal to their women. They never cheat. Maybe they’ve come close to cheating, but their resolve to remain loyal triumphed at the last minute. These guys are probably the happiest. Cheating is such intense admin. It takes all sorts of clever ‘crime scene clean-up’ and covering up to peacefully manage your collection of gorgeous size 34s, size 30s, size 38s. It can be heavy on the pocket too. It is still a wonder to me how broke guys play the game. Of course the loyal guys don’t have to deal with all this nonsense. Do you know how awesome it is to deal with other relationship issues other than infidelity? Sadly though, in many cases these guys get the women who ain’t loyal. They get the women who don’t deserve them. This guy has probably asked you out before but you turned him down because you find him boring. These women would rather seek and stay with bad boys rather than good guys. Unfortunately it’s these guys that end up cheating. As much as you believe you can change him, don’t fool yourself, honey – bad boys change when they want to change, not when a woman wants them to. It’s really admirable that your self-esteem is so healthy you believe you can change a messed up adult, but I’m not convinced you have such powers vested in you. They are not ready to grow up, and the most amazingly caring, stupendously, gorgeous, eye-popping, seriously intelligent woman ain’t gonna change that situation. Women love pushing boys into positions boys are not ready for. You cannot wish a playboy into a responsible and loyal partner.
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