The One is out there’ and other myths about falling in love

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Explaining how love feels is tricky. Love birds will attest to the fact that you’ll just know when you feel it. But there are things that aren’t real. Here they are…

These are some of the myths many hopeful romantics tend to believe in:

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True love equals compatibility

Every person is unique, you’ve got your own qualities, personality, and quirks – all of these things constantly need to be worked on. It’s imposiible that you find someone who’s a hundred percent compatible with you.

Your perfect man is somewhere out there

This is a phrase that’s used very often, especially when trying to console a single friend; it’s simply misleading. According to mathematical probability, there’s only about 10 people in the whole world that’ll perfectly fit your criteria. With your chances being so limited what are the odds that you’ll find that perfect man who’s meant for you? Honestly, girl…

All you need is love to make a relationship work…

…If this was the case then divorce rates wouldn’t be increasing so much. For a relationship to work you need a fully-equiped skills set. It goes beyond loving someone, it’s about staying in love, maintaining the spark, managing finances, and some people are just not cut out for that.

A new relationship is a new start

This isn’t always true because people tend to carry baggage from previous relationships in to a new one. Certain behavioural patterns start to occur in what was supposed to be a “fresh start” and it becomes a de javu all over again.

You can’t make yourself fall out of love

This is a common excuse that people use when they don’t want to get out of a relationship that’s beyond repairable. As much you learnt to love that person, there’re techniques that help with falling out of love such as cutting contact, detaching yourself, and allowing yourself to be sad in the process.

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