The reality of dating a divorced man


For some of us, a divorced man rarely ever makes it to the list of your perfect guy. However for the more open minded, a divorced man can still make the cut. Here’s what you can expect from dating a divorcee.


He’s experienced his first’s

Don’t be offended if our man isn’t as excited as you are about marriage, kids, and starting a family because he’s been there and done that. Avoid getting in the relationship with the hope of getting a proposal in the first few months. Marriage might have left a sour taste is his mouth so give him time to process it.

You’re going to hear about the ex

If you’re the type to get worked up at the slightest mention of the ex’s name then this kind of relationship isn’t for you. He might want to release his frustrations regarding the divorce, and as a supportive girlfriend you have to listen.

His home will remind the both of you of his ex

If he got the house after the divorce chances are the decor will remain the same for quite some time. Your taste and style might differ from the ex’s, and it’s up to your man to give you the go ahead on changing the look and feel of the house.

Be ready to be an instant mom

Though not all, but some divorcee’s come with children and they often have to adjust to having two homes. If your relationship has the potential of being long term, your man could expect you to have some form of connection with his children.

You may be judged

His family and friends may blame you for the divorce even if you had nothing to do with it. In this case, it’s up to your partner to make this clear to them and have your back.

He might have not learned from the marraige

Remember it takes two to tango. Their marriage might have not worked because they both had issues that were unsolvable. Take a closer look at why his ex wife left and try to see if they’d be any change in behaviour from him.

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