The reality of dating someone with social anxiety

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Whether he disclosed his condition with you or not, dating someone with social anxiety can pose a lot of challenges if you don’t understand the in’s and out’s of this condition.

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They obsess over things for a long time

Nothing is ever too small for them. They take even the tinniest of things to heart. Anxiety on it’s own makes one not to be able to focus on things they don’t want to, so if their mind is on something, it’ll take a lot for them to switch their mindsets. This includes things like worrying about whether they locked the door, or bringing up an issue that happened ages ago.

A tiny issue can be turned into something big

When dating someone with this is condition, be wary of taking them to new places as one small comment from a stranger can be highly offensive to them. Often this stems from believing they’re bound to do something wrong, which results in them doubting their every second move and eventually not enjoying themselves.

Teasing should be kept at a minimum

Anxiety comes with a lot of insecurities and these includes constantly worrying about not being rude or insensitive towards people. So if you want to crack a joke let it be about the anything but them.

They apologise a lot

More often than not, they’re usually apologising for something that happened a long time ago and you forgot about or they’re mad that you didn’t apologise for something as small as forgeting to record their favorite show.

They prefer staying in than going out

You’ll find that one outdoor actvity a month is enough. This is due to them being very uneasy in highly populated places so they’d rather be home and their own fun.

They notice the smallest things

Whilst you’re thinking you’re having a great date, they’re overanalysing everything that’s happening around them. From the couple arguing across the table to the uniform of the staff, all of these that you weren’t focused on.

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