The woman’s guide to having ‘the talk’ with him


But how do you ask your man about the future without terrifying him? Here are some tips for you.

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Pick the right time

Timing is everything when considering to have this talk. You don’t want to leave it until too late as you don’t want to waste your time and doing it too early can also backfire by pushing him away.

We say six months should be your benchmark because by now, you should be knowing fairly enough of what kind of person you’re dating. The first three months are for exploring each other and enjoying that honeymoon phase.

Be open

Honesty is the best policy and when having ‘the talk’ you want your partner to know your true feelings towards this issue. Bear in mind that you might not share the same sentiments and it’s up to you to decide if this is a deal breaker or not.

Don’t be afraid to object

You might have not been prepared for his response but that’s no reason to pretend to be fine whilst there are elements that’re worrying you. If you’re into babies and he isn’t, try finding out the reasons and see if there’s no way to work around it.

Be realistic

Remember the aim for ‘the talk’ is less about the dates and more about the your long terms goals being alligned. Just because you’re having the talk doesn’t mean he’s ready to set a date for the wedding.

Come prepared

What’s the point of asking your man about the future if you yourself don’t know what it is that you want. Come to the table with points of your own to link to his and see there’s any light for the two of you.

Don’t take it personal

If you’re both honest to yourselves and to each other then there won’t be no need to pretend to one another. Accept your incompatibilities if there’re any and try working towards them.

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