Toxic habits couples think are normal


When it comes to relationships, nobody gives you a crash course on what’s right and wrong, you’re just thrown in the deep end and have to see for yourself.

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Here’s what you definitely shouldn’t let slide in your relationship:

Passive aggression

Instead of saying what it is that’s upsetting you, you leave it up to your partner to figure it out themselves. You’re constantly finding ways to make the other one angry in order for you to voice out your frustrations.

Blaming your partner for your emotions

This is a form of selfishess because what you feel sometimes has got nothing to do with your partner. Yes, you may have had a bad day and maybe he did too hence he isn’t very symphathetic.

Making your partner responsible for your emotions develops a dependancy routine and the next thing you know you can’t go anywhere without asking for your partner’s permission.

Displaying jealousy as ‘love’

A jealous partner isn’t a loving one because they’re controlling and manipulative. This kind of behaviour transmits a message of lack of trust in the other person. If your partner isn’t okay with you hanging out around other men then you might want to reassess your relationship.

Keeping a relationship scorecard

Bringing up past mistakes is a sign that you’re holding on the past and that alone draws the relationship backwards. Your relationship turns into a battle field where you’re both eagerly waiting for the other to screw up.

Emotional blackmail

People who are great at emotional blackmailing often mess up and find ways to shift the blame to the other person. Naturally, if the blame is shifted the next person is bound to feel guilty. This is the worst kind of blackmail as the blamed person often wants to try harder fixing what they don’t and no matter what they never leave their partner.

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