What to do if you want to be dominated in bed


Slow and tender sex is great but it’s not what women want all the time. Sometimes you want him to pull your hair and just have his way with you. Here’s how to to it. Screen Shot 2017-04-06 at 12.17.06 PM

Do your research

You need to have done research on how you want to be dominated. Is it bondage that you like or role playing? You need to decide what domination means to you and take it up with him.

Be specific

When you tell him how you want to be handled, put on your sexy voice and tell him exactly what you want, with some demonstrations of course.

Set limits

You don’t want to take it overboard and have one of you end up hurt emotionally or physically. Coming up with a safe word is perfect for knowing when you’re overstepping the mark. If you’re using objects for spanking maybe draw the line on anything that leaves a mark.

Make the right noise

Your sighs and moans will show him how turned on you are. Even if he wasn’t into the kinky stuff – hearing you take pleasure from this will get him hooked. It’s good to also let him know how well he’s doing in between your moans, just as an ego booster.

Dirty talk

This might scare the both of you at first if it’s not your usual thing. Tell him how bad you’ve been lately and need to be punished. He must be commanding and aggressive in his dirty talk, by telling you what he’s going to do as opposed to asking how you want to be punished.

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