What do you do? Experts help you decide.
We give you some tips:
Analyse your crushAsk yourself: Is it his looks that make you stay up at night thinking about him, his personality or the two of you genuinely just gel? This will help you draw the line between love and lust.
Accept that it’s natural“Just because you’re in a relationship doesn’t mean you stop noticing beautiful people” says Teesha Morgan, a sex therapist. Your partner’s friend is no different – he also adds to the list of your crushes.
Don’t be obsessiveIt’s easy to get into obsessive mode with your crush hence Aviva Meyers, a psychologist, mentions on her website that you need to occupy your mind, go for a movie or hang out with friends. You’ll have less thoughts about your partner’s friend. With time all those butterflies in your tummy would be nonexistent.
Talk to your manYou might also be “crushing” because you’re lonely and missing some “male attention”, sit your partner down and let him know that you’re developing feelings for someone else. With time and changes in behaviour from the two of you that crush will die down.
Weigh the pros and consIf you’re current partner is worth fighting that crush for then go ahead and do just that, you don’t want to lose a good thing over nothing. But if he’s just dragging you along then act on that crush who knows he might be “the one”.