‘When are you having a baby’ and other intrusive questions people ask


Here are the common questions people ask without realising how


‘When are you getting married?’

The is the question you’ll get once you reach your mid 20s and your childhood friends start sending you wedding invites. The people in your life can’t seem to help themselves from asking when your turn is coming. The sensitivity in this is that firstly, it’s none of anyone’s business. Secondly what if you don’t wan’t to get married? And lastly, you could be unlucky in love and you definitely don’t want to be reminded about this.


‘When are you buying a house?’

We’re sure if you had the means to get a house you would be a home owner by now. Buying a house isn’t like a buying a T-shirt and being asked about this can damage your self-confidence especially if your peers have acquired a number of properties and you’re still on zero.


‘When are you having a baby?’

What we’ve taken away from Gabrielle Union’s unfortunate experience is that, don’t judge a person before hearing their story because you don’t know their life struggles.


‘When are you graduating?’

In South Africa the struggle most students face is how to pay off their fees. You could have been forced to take a few gap years due to financial constraints and this will only serve as reminder of how far you could have been in life had you not had financial problems. 


‘When are you buying a car?’

Following a car accident,  the common assumption would be that you’d immediately get another one right? But, getting over the trauma of driving, or taking a break to have your finances in order might stop you from getting another car. It is for these reasons you would rather lie than tell the truth because  you fear being ‘judged’.



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