When he won’t commit…

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Screen Shot 2016-05-17 at 4.27.05 PM It’s a fact that many men fear commitment. According to Cecilia d’Felice, a psychologist, relationship expert and author of 21 Days to a New You, men are biologically designed to impregnate as many women as possible, so they aren’t genetically programmed to settle down with just one woman. But they also don’t want to end up alone, so they feel the need to commit. But if you thought there’s just one kind of commitment-phobe, think again. Meet the various types of men who won’t commit and the tell-tale signs to look out for. The womaniser He’s the one with a different girl in every Facebook photo. He keeps a list of future and past conquests, and sends out booty call texts to a handful of ladies every Friday night. Relationship expert Denise Knowles says the womaniser is often terrified of being caught out. “Beware of a man like this as it’s likely you’ll be dating his huge ego too. Have fun with him, but don’t expect him to be the love of your life until he’s ready to calm down,” she says. The man who won’t grow up He is immature and will never let his friends down for a girl. He is also scared of ageing and being seen as boring, but he can be tamed. He probably isn’t going to change any time soon, though. Let him see how cool and laid-back you can be – it’ll show him that your idea of commitment is not boring. The mama’s boy He is too attached to his mother, and may even live in her house. Knowles says: “He’s terrified of doing anything that will upset his mom. If it’s obvious that he doesn’t think any girl is as good as his mom, move on. But if he’s the kind of guy that just doesn’t want to hurt his mom, then get to know her. Show her that you are not a threat, and let him see that you get on well together.” The moper This is the guy who didn’t go out for months after he split from his girlfriend and is stuck on his ex. He has drunken rants about how bad she was and posts bitter status updates about her new man. However, much he claims to hate his ex, he’s still hoping she’ll call and say it was all a mistake. Try to show him that you’re different from his ex and offer love that can be more valuable. Walk away if he doesn’t respond well. The dreamer He’s the man who’s had lots of relationships that have just fizzled out. He hates weddings (apart from the free beer), but loves a bachelor party. He thrives on the chase and always goes for the hard-to-get girl, then doesn’t call her back. He is unrealistic when it comes to relationships. However, he isn’t a lost cause; he just needs to be more realistic about his expectations. It’s possible that he’s been let down in the past, so if you want to make it work, you need to find out what’s driving his fear. Be careful, though, as he might see this as getting too close and push you away.

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