Whether you want more of it, less or need some excitement. Fighting about sex is very real, and stems from the fact that you are not communicating well. Here’s how to fix it:
- Communicate about your expectations. What you want in bed, what you expect from him and vice versa. Pick the right time to do this. Avoid bring it up during sex.
- Stop being too critical. Be kind to your partner, and don’t dwell on the wrong things that happened during intercourse.
- Learn that ‘no’ doesn’t mean never. And discuss this with your partner. You’ll both understand that it’s not about being spiteful, but you’re just not into it at that time.
- Give and take. It’s not just about your needs. So be willing to listen to your partner as well. Meeting each other half way is a great compromise; this way each partner won’t feel neglected.
- Entice him. If you want more sex, learn about the things that turn him on and use those to entice him. Don’t wait for him to initiate sex, and pout when it doesn’t happen. Initiate once in a while, and this might just up your sex life to another level. But make sure it’s at appropriate times – not when he is stressed or is busy with something important.
- Provide a safe environment. where you can both express your desires and fantasies.