There are many of us who were raised by our grandparents. If you are the parent now, it’s important to keep the connection between you and your child strong. Here’s how to do it: Talk to them Children need to be told if their parents were too young to raise them or if they have passed away. This communication must start early in life and should come from both the parents and ?the grandparents. ? Keep contact Don’t be a ?stranger; kids often lash out when they don’t understand a situation and when they are frustrated. Spend time with them and develop common interests, it will show them you care. ? Communicate Simple things like “mommy is coming to visit you tomorrow” and “mommy loves you” work best. A phone call once a week or even once a day can also help to maintain the bond. ? Don’t compete Do not compete for attention with the grandparents. Some parents often feel left out of their children’s lives and try to buy their way in with gifts. A child might use this to punish you in the future. ? Keep promises To build trust, the parent should make a special effort not to share what the child told them in confidence. If you were not around when your child was growing up, give them time to get used to you being back and having you in their life. ? Spend time together Create opportunities where you can connect with the child, like when playing games together. This will strengthen your bond and give the child a chance to interact with you informally. ?
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