White lies that are okay to tell and those that aren’t


According to marriage and family therapist, Paul Hokemeyer couples should always be honest with each other, but in some cases honesty can do more harm than good.

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Here’re some lies you can get away with and those you should never utter.


  • Lying about his outfit: Even though he might take offence once he finds out about this lie, it’s not that big of a deal that it can destroy your relationship. He’s probably lied to you too when you asked if those jeans make you look bigger.

  • If he can’t handle the truth at that moment: You need to be smart with this, so timing is everything. To help you go through this, Hokemeyer advises that you ask yourself if you really need to tell him at that moment. If the answer is no, then surely you can delay it for a while.

  • Details of your girl’s night out: How do you think he’s going to react if you tell him some hot looking man bought you and your friends a couple of drinks on the night? Of course, he’ll be jealous. So when reminiscing about the great time you had, you can miss that part.

  • Your body count: Not that you need to lie about it, but if you happen to feel insecure about your past sexual partners, feel free to tweek the number to what you feel comfortable with.

Not acceptable

  • Finances: Do you always hide your plastic bags in the car or at a friend’s house, and bring them out when he’s not there? According to clinical psychologist and relationship expert Monica O’Neal this a wrong move. She and other experts agree that it’s best you’re open about your purchases as you wouldn’t want him to do the same to you. Plus wrekless spending can lead to financial ruin, which will have a negative effect on your future as a couple.

  • Your health history- Regardless of how small you might take this, your partner needs to know about your health status. This includes things like the last time you went for tests, or if you’re on any medication.
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