Why he turns you down


We find it hard to imagine a situation in which a guy would ever turn down sex. But, believe it or not, even sex-hungry guys turn down sex once in a while.

When this happens women think it's because something is wrong with them or he’s getting it somewhere else. To stop these misconceptions here are some of reasons men say no to sex.


He’s tired

Yes, men are human, too. He might be completely exhausted from a long day at work. He wants to have sex, but doesn’t want to put in all that work. Right now to him sex feels like the Olympics and he doesn’t want you to think he’s selfish. So it’s complicated.

He’s upset

Did you fight? He probably isn’t over that fight. But, don’t assume he’s mad every time he’s not in the mood. If you suspect something, ask him. At this point he’d rather come back when he’s in the mood.

He’s gassy

You did absolutely nothing, it something he ate. And right now, that thing he ate is filling his stomach with gas and he’s afraid he might embarrass himself during the process. It may also be that he ate too much not so long ago and he still feels heavy and full.

He stinks

He might have forgotten to shower after gym. And now he’s realising that his armpits smell and he can’t embarrass himself like that. In a relationship you both have flaws but no one wants to be cuddled with armpits that have strong and bad odour. What both of you can do is take a shower together and have your steamy sex there.

He’s stressed

Stress is a big one. If he’s going to sleep anxious about another early morning at work, he might just be not in the mood. And just because he’s not talking about work doesn’t mean he’s not stressing about it. If the problem persists offer him a massage and if you can work the tension out of his shoulders, you may just bring him around.

He just masturbated

He already ‘took care’ of himself recently. It might be because he didn’t know what time you were going to be home. And he decides to have a little date with himself. Well, let’s just call it bad timing.

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