Why you shouldn’t play wife to your boyfriend


Whether or not it’s in your nature to mother everyone around you, taking on the wife role to someone who isn’t your husband is never a good idea. Here’s why.

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Temporary comfort

The question to ask yourself should be, ‘what am I gaining from this?’, whilst he’s getting all the husband benefits? Undoubtedly the answer will be no! He will continue treating you as the girlfriend. Don’t expect to be consulted before he takes any important decisions.

He expects too much

It always starts small, cooking a meal or two or washing a few shirts, before you know it you’re already renovating his whole house to make it more homely. Author of Dating, single life, Andrea Alley, says woman often do this to show their partners how good of a wife they can be, should they be wifed one day.

One sided

These type of relationships are often one sided and it’s usually the women that are at a disadvantage. Wasting your emotional and physical strength on someone who will not think twice before leaving you is an injustice to yourself.

Set up for disappointment

The moment you mention marriage that’s when he starts detaching himself. He will beat around the bush and eventually find a way to get out of the relationship. Months after your break up, you hear that he’s getting married, that’s a tough pill to swallow, right?

The law doesn’t recognise it

Now that he’s ready to move on to his next target, there’s no where for you run to, accept to your friends. After months and years and giving yourself to this man you will not leave the relationship with anything. If the law recognised this set up then you would take him to the cleaners for wasting your time.

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