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On Lebo MI’m a very private person. Lebo and I had issues before we called off the engagement. I hoped we’d solve them behind closed doors. Instead, he chose to speak to the media. I’d even moved out of our home with the kids, so we could work things out properly. I’m very disappointed. I don’t know why he decided to release a statement that claimed our engagement crumbled when we couldn’t reach an agreement on the pre-nuptial. I’m not surprised, though, because of the type of person he is. Lebo knows just how painful the name-calling I’ve endured is. For him to also join in and imply that I’m after his money hurts and is opportunistic.
I feel Lebo used the press release to deflect attention away from himself and to prevent being asked why his relationships never last. I don’t want to go on a smear campaign against him; he’s the father of my child, and I still respect him. I haven’t seen him since I moved out of his house in May.
On Robert MarawaRobert pays a monthly maintenance for our son, Awande. The tabloids latched on to my story when I requested he pay R29 900. I’m currently appealing to the High Court to have his contributions reviewed. I requested that amount because I live in an estate set-up and have a certain lifestyle. My attorneys advised me on the total I requested. I went through a three-month exercise where I had to save every receipt and any other account I had for Awande’s expenses. I took those to court as proof. My child’s school fees cost R5 000 a month, and there’s medical aid to pay because he gets sick often. I didn’t know I could claim for entertainment, housing and gardening expenses as well. The media chose to focus on just that, but the list I sent is actually detailed. It’s about the safety of my child.
Robert and I broke up just before I left for Australia in 2012. We had a good thing and were friends for more than seven years before we became an item. When we became a couple, things moved quickly. I fell pregnant in 2010 and moved back home to be with my family in preparation for when our son came. Our son’s full name is Awande Robert Marawa. Robert paid damages for his son. Things just got out of hand; we both went through personal issues and eventually, I decided to end the relationship.
I reached out to Robert many times while I was still living abroad. I’d even send him photos and videos of his son, hoping he’d initiate a relationship with him. Initially, I left Joburg to go stay back home to Richards Bay in KwaZulu-Natal. Robert’s excuse for not seeing Awande then was that he was busy travelling.
On moving onA break-up is always painful, but I’m enjoying being me again. I sometimes catch myself playing with my ring finger, expecting the ring that Lebo made specially for me based on my character, Sarabi, in The Lion King. A part of my soul died in our relationship. I submitted myself to being a woman I thought I was expected to be and I forgot about myself. I’m no longer scurrying around now trying to take care of everyone – I’m focusing on being me and looking after my kids. I’m lighter and more positive. I haven’t got to the stage of the break-up where I miss Lebo just yet, as I’m still hurting. If he asks for us to get back together again, he’ll have to put in the work to prove himself to me again. If that doesn’t happen and I do date again, I want somebody who’s kind and respectful, and who values women.
Update:Zoe and Robert’s son recently turned 5 and both parents did attend the celebration.
Read more on Zoe Mthiyane on our July issue, currently on shelves.