Things to consider before being a bridesmaid


How close are you to the bride?

There are people that you meet through friends and you don’t know whether to consider them friends or acquaintances. So if you’re in this kind of situation ask yourself if you’re really friends with the bride. Would they call you in desperate times and vice versa? Do you know who they’re getting married to and how often do you communicate? If the answers to these are mostly ‘no’, you might want to decline this offer.

Can you financially afford it?  

The  bride and groom already have a lot of things to pay for, hence many couples would rather have their bridal party incur their own costs. An average bridesmaid needs a dress (sometimes two), shoes and a pricey hair appointment. This can be expensive, depending on the brides preference. Before committing yourself rather make the bride aware of your financial situation. She may come up with plan b while she still has time.

Do you have the time for it?

If your schedule is always tight, especially during weekends, chances of you being a hands on bridesmaid are very slim. Naturally you have to help the bride with making the day a success. So if you know you’ll make it for all the meetings and rehearsals by all means go ahead and say yes.

How shy are you in public?

Remember as much as all eyes will be on the bride, the guests are going to be looking at you as well. The photographers will be directing you on how to pose for pictures and some guests will be taking snaps of you without you knowing. So if this is a problem for you rather give this a miss.

Do you have a say in choosing the dress?

Most women have dreamed about their wedding day from since they were small. So chances are the bride already has an idea of what she wants her bridal team to look like. Unfortunately for you, her choice in style could be a total opposite of what you like. Decline the offer if you know you’re not willing to compromise on the dress.

What will be your duties?

You might be expected to fly to Mauritius for the bridal shower or to serve canapes to the guests, which you may be uncomfortable doing. Get these questions out of the way prior to making your decision as this will see both you and the bride enjoying yourselves. 

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