Acknowledge that your partner is dynamic
After being with the same person for a long time it’s only natural that you start feeling like you know them so well and there’s nothing more to learn. In life you can never say you know too much. The same applies to your relationship, the person you fell in love with five years ago will definitely have something new for you to explore and learn about. So, make the time and appreciate the changes that come with the years.
Accept each other as you are
In relationships you can’t accept one part of your partner and reject the other. It’s either you take each other as you are or you don’t even get into a relationship. Constantly trying to change your partner will only push him away.
Known for his work on the link between spirituality and science, psychologist and author David Steindl-Rast, in his TED talk on Youtube, unpacks the topic of gratitude saying how it can increase happiness in your relationship. Even if it’s once a week, let your partner know what it is you appreciate about him. You’ll be surprised at the change you’ll see in the overall state of your relationship.
Let go of the score
Remember you’re in a team and the aim is to work together not against each other. Things like you coming back home late because he did the same the previous night is petty and shouldn’t be done. All this is going to do is cause a rift between you two. Instead of keeping score rather talk things through and tackle your problems head on.
Nothing can make up for not having time for each other. Gifts are great yes, but it doesn’t come close to knowing that you have someone who’ll always be there for you.