5 ways to overcome your fear of commitment


Discover the reason behind your fear

Knowing the cause behind your fear is the best way to find the solutions. Does commitment overwhelm you, or is it influenced by your past relationship experiences? Regardless of the reason, you need to tackle whatever it is head on.

Is it you or them?

Sometimes, this has got everything to do with the person you’re dating,hence you always have to know the type of person you’re dating. Maybe your anxiety is based on that one person because he's not right for you.

Surround yourself with committed people

Once you get an inside view into the lives of  other committed couples then you might put your negative thoughts on hold as you see that it’s not all that bad.  Relationship expert and psychologist Dr Kimber Shelton mentions on her blog that familiarising yourself with the ‘committed relationship scene’ will help you get a balanced view of of relationships.

Take note of the benefits

As much as there’s nothing wrong with being single, being in a committed relationship has more pros than cons. Naturally, human beings have the desire to feel loved, and cared for by another person and this what you’ll get from a committed relationship.

Find the courage

Like with anything in life, if you start doing something with an attitude that says you’ll fail, chances are you’ll fail because that’s the standard you set out for yourself. This is why you need to change your mindset when it comes to relationships. Approach it with a positive mind, that your union is for keeps, to just live in the moment. 

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