6 signs to tell if you’re the problem in your relationships

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You’re unhappy with yourself

Being content with yourself and life in general has a way that reflects positively in your relationship. If you're not happy with yourself, it could cause many problems. It can be hard to love someone else when you can't love yourself. Change this by working on yourself first before getting into any partnership. Look deeper within you, get professional help if you need to and learn to forgive yourself and let go of festering issues from your past.

You like bringing up the past

It’s okay to take your time forgiving your partner for whatever wrong doings he might have made, but very unfair to remind him of it every other second. If your partner has shown remorse and you both choose to let it go, then leave it in the past. Don't bank your hurts because you will bring it up each time you have a disagreement. Deal with it and be done with it as it happens.

You’re still stuck in your past relationships

Maybe things didn’t go as you expected with the one you thought was the love of life or you just can't seem to forget about an ex. Starting a relationship with baggage is never a good idea, at some point it’s all going to come up and affect your relationship. It's unfair to your new partner and you should consider how they feel every time you compare them to your ex or assume that they'll hurt you just like your ex did.

You overshare on social media

Using social media is all good and well, but it becomes a problem when you post every little detail on it. People don’t want to read about the fight you guys had. Take a hard look at how you’ve been using social media and see if this isn’t the reason behind many of your unsuccessful relationships.

You want everything to be perfect

You aren’t perfect, your partner isn’t as well. The upside about imperfect relationships is that, it creates room for change and growth. Get rid of the ‘perfect relationship’ mindset, and watch your relationship flourish on its own terms.

You don’t show any appreciation

It’s very easy to take your partner for granted after being together for quiet some time and that’s where problems start. If you give your partner reason to feel unappreciated, he will eventually give up on you and the relationship. Also, wonderful things happen when there's appreciation and kindness in relationships – your partner will treat you the same.

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