How to handle a crush when you're already committed


While others may say having a crush on someone else while you're in a relationship is the same as cheating, a relationship site proves otherwise. Experts believe it's totally normal. Here's how to have a crush and still maintain a good relationship with your man. 

Continue confiding in your man

Your partner should be your confidant, whether there's a crush in the picture on not. Pouring your heart out to someone who's not your man defeats the whole purpose of having a life partner. According to relationship psychologist and author Kate Figs emotions can take over our mind, so if you allow a crush into your emotional space chances are you might take things further than you should. 

Don't act on it

If by chance you get the opportunity to interact with your crush don't make your feelings obvious to him. Set boundaries for yourself and stick to them. Boundaries such sticking to general conversations when together may help you not overstep the line. Once your crush knows how you feel you would have crossed the line and your partner could see this as emotional cheating. 

Accept that your crush is dating someone else

When dealing with a crush it's always important to remember that you're not in a relationship with the person. Once you allow yourself to be upset because someone out there refers to him as 'my man' then it's no longer a crush. Embrace the fact that your crush may be with someone else and that means not criticizing his dates or people he hangs out with, he's free to do as he pleases. 

Acknowledge that you don't really know him 

In essence you don't really know your crush due to the fact that interaction is usually very limited and so far all you've seen is the good side of him. However, unlike your crush, you know who your man is, you're aware of the good and bad side of him and vice versa hence you've managed to maintain your relationship. This will ideally help you not jeopardize  your relationship over someone you don't really know. 

Let a crush be what it is 

Once you overthink what having a crush means then you're turning something innocent into a something malicious. You're in a relationship with your partner for a reason and if you've decided this is the person you'd like to spend the rest of your life don't second guess your relationship because you find another man attractive. 

Your partner is crushing on someone else 

Just as you have one or a couple of people you're crushing on chances are your partner also has a number of them. You may know about it or not because it's nothing more than a crush. His affection towards you hasn't changed so don't allow it to happen to you. 

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