Reasons to not get ahead of yourself in relationships


It’s unrealistic

Like any relationship, be it with a friend or a colleague, the honeymoon phase does end. And when it does, you’re faced with challenges to overcome in order to test how strong you are as a pair.

You might lose yourself

Rushing your relationship can result in you putting a hold on the things that make you happy, like your hobbies or connecting with family. Before you know it, your entire life is tied around your relationship and you realise it way too late.

Limitation of opinions

New relationships have a way of making some people act out of character, like agreeing to do things that are against their values and beliefs because they’re trying to complete the ‘perfect relationship’ image they created in their head.

You’re yet to see the reality

Even though pretending to be someone you’re not is not recommended, you can’t help but tweak yourself when you find a new man and the same applies to him. Putting someone you hardly know on a pedestal can yield awful results once you discover your partner for what he really is.

It’s nothing like in the movies

Not to take away anything from romance but real life doesn’t follow scripts, hence you should expect the unexpected. Those perfect lines and the perfect scenes aren’t there in real life, so take things easy.

Not everything needs a title

Rushing to define your relationship will only make you miss the journey of what could have been the perfect union. Day dreaming about your wedding day two months into the relationship will only put unnecessary pressure on the two of you. 

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