Things to consider before starting couple’s therapy

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How long have you been together?

A three-month relationship that’s not working out just means you just fell in love with the wrong person and you need to let them go.  Your union needs to be solid enough for you to put in the effort to make it work.

Do you always fight?

Therapy sure can help in resolving some of the difficulties you might be facing however,  it can’t do much for you two if you were doomed from the get go. You need to evaluate how your relationship has been until now. Did you always have problems or did they just start now?

Are you ready to admit your faults?

Relationships are a two-way street, you must be willing to give in as much you receive. In most cases, as partners you would have  contributed to the way your relationship turned out. Don’t go into therapy with the intension of blaming your partner, be ready to admit your faults as well.


Are you willing to change?

We know therapy doesn’t come cheap so when you decide to go make sure you’re willing to make a few changes. If you’re going to let pride get in the way of your progress then it’s best you put it on hold for a while.


Are you going to be happier?

Does your partnership need to be worked on or would it be best if you both went separate ways? At times couples have the fear of the unknown when it comes to separating or divorcing. If you both know and agree that you’ll be happier without one another then therapy isn’t for you.

What’s your plan B?

There’s a possibility that therapy might not work for you and you need to have a plan of action should this be the case. Are you going to break up, continue and see where it takes you or seek help elsewhere?

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