For women especially, sex requires two things: energy and a clear head. If you’re worried about other things, then you won’t be able to get aroused. And if you’re tired, you definitely won’t want sex. So if sex is going to be great, it can’t come last on your priority list.
You don’t do anything outside the bedroom
When you’re not connecting outside the bedroom, sex will get boring because it reflects the whole relationship. And if your relationship is boring, and you’re always doing the same thing that you’ve always done before, sex is likely going to be boring, too.
Only one person initiates
Even if sex is great, if the same person always starts it’s going to feel, well, like pity sex. Even if you’re more than excited once it starts, if you never initiate it, your partner may feel like you’re not really into it. And soon enough, he’ll stop trying, too.
You are too comfortable
If getting ready for bed consists of talking to him while he’s brushing his teeth and while you wrap your head with a scarf and wear an old T-shirt, then it’s no wonder that sex has become boring.
You never share what you want
Maybe there’s something you’ve always wanted to try but you’ve never gotten the courage to tell your partner. Maybe you’d rather be touched in a certain way, but your partner doesn’t know that. And it’s been years now. And you feel like expressing yourself makes you feel like you’ll be judged or criticised; then maybe you’re with the wrong person.