Make him work hard to make you orgasm
Nothing ever comes easy in life right so why should he get the easy way out? Teach him about the things that turn you on and those that make you reach orgasm. From there, it should be all systems go. Play a game that should he fail to make you reach the big O, there’ll be punishment waiting for him.
This will help you become the master of your own game. Explore your body to a point where you don’t get shocked anymore when a man does it to you. Find out what it is that rocks your boat. Be it vibrators, or porn.
Ask if he’s been tested
We hear and see ads and campaigns about HIV and Aids almost everyday, there’s no need for you to sweep this under the carpet. We know it’s an awkward conversation to have but the only way to know is to ask. Or even better, make it a couple’s activity and go get tested together.
Say no to what you don’t want
The habit of doing things in bed only to please your man should stop. What about your needs and fantasies? You have every right to enjoy sex as much as he does and that’s were compromise comes in. There’ll be things that you like that he won’t be comfortable with, it’ll be up to you to decide where you draw the line.
Worrying about the stretchmarks will make you miss out on what could have been the best sexual experience of your life. So for things you have no control over, let it go with the wind.