How to stay positive while waiting for ‘the one’

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Constantly meeting the wrong guys can put you off men in general. Here’s how to keep your head up while waiting for Mr right.

Do a reality check

It would be fantastic if love was exactly like what we see in Hollywood movies, but what you see in those chick flicks doesn’t represent even a fraction of what happens in reality. The love of your life won’t unexpectedly come out of nowhere and sweep you off your feet. You’ll kiss plenty of frogs before you meet your Prince charming. Be prepare to explore a bit. Go on dates and avoid thinking that every date will end in marriage to avoid disappointment.

Have a strategy

How is it that some women are able to find and maintain happy relationships? It’s because they know what they want and they’ve set standards for themselves. Have a plan of action and know what you’re looking for in a man.

Shake off the bad experiences

Yes you’ve been hurt a couple of times before and the bad memories will linger, but don’t let them weigh you down as you need to focus on the bigger picture, which is finding your perfect man.

Think outside the box

It only takes change for you to see your love life in a different light. Dating out of your comfort zone will bring a change and change is good as it’ll take you to a whole new different direction.

Rediscover your purpose for dating

If you date to feel complete or just to have a companion then you’re doing it for all the wrong reasons. You can use your previous relationships that failed as reference, they’ll help you determine what went wrong. Set new relationship goals and work towards making them a reality.


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