Stop having sex, start making love

Image: Getty Images
Image: Getty Images

Slow it down

Fast and rough sex is hot, there’s no disputing that, but a lot can be said for the sensual intimacy that slowing it down can create. The slow movement of your bodies as you make love will cause you to really feel each other, emotionally and physically.

Do face-to-face positions

When having sex, it doesn’t matter if you’re face-to-face with your partner because you’re both only interested in climaxing, but when you’re making love, it’s an entirely different experience altogether. That’s why, when you and your partner are making love, it’s important to do only positions that will have you face-to-face, chest-to-chest so that you can be together and in the moment.

Extend foreplay

The lead up to sex is just as hot as the sex itself, so when you extend the foreplay to ensure that you’re making love, it really ups your chances of that closeness. Kiss your partner from head to toe, slowly exploring every inch of their body and allow them to do the same. The more you focus on your partner's pleasure, the more love you create and communicate.

Play music

If you want to turn your sex into love making, add some music it will definitely help with that. Make a love song playlist with slow melodies that will really bring you into the moment. It’s important that the songs on your playlist are love songs because when the love is playing in the background you can really get into the love you’re participating in making.

Make eye contact

Don’t underestimate the power of eye contact. To be able to stare deeply into your lover’s eyes while making love can seem otherwise intimidating if you aren’t there yet emotionally. But, it can help you get to a point where you really feel connected to the person you’re making love to, and not just in a physical way.

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